Keeping score with your Dad

July 29, 2014 – 7:33 am
      If you're interested in exercise, learning styles or parenting, allow me to share a shocking discover I had with my boy today. My 9 year old son got up early to train with me. Something clicked in him yesterday, so I set up his space to Tacfit with me. Several rounds in, he asks me, "Dad, are you doing 20 reps? I thought you said to do 15." I had, but I had given him a more gradual ramp up.  Laughing, I asked him of he was counting both my reps and his own reps at the same time. He nodded.  Fascinated at the prospect that my son had a dyslexic processing-style, I asked him if he sees my number of reps and his number of reps flipping back and forth alternating between the two. Non-dyslexics can think this attentional "toggle" switching way because they have more resistance to digit memory overload than dyslexics ...

What if you KNEW it was (not) meant to be?

July 29, 2014 – 5:54 am
  How can you know something was or wasn't meant to be? Not believe or hope, but KNOW?  I had been in several long term relationships before my wife. I had hoped they'd each be "Mrs. Right." But each relationship led me to heartbreak. Were they failures or were they not meant to be? Though we met in Pennsylvania, my wife's family and mine had both vacationed on Chincoteague island for over 20 years. Despite that my wife and I had moved to the other side of the country, to another obscure town (Bellingham, WA), we continued to return each summer while we courted, after we married and to this day. It takes annual planning of our year and savings to fly our family, but coming together as one large family pays great dividends in joy of heart, peace of mind and love for each other. One year, my brother-in-law and I were ...

The funny thing about talented people is others think they’re obsessed

July 29, 2014 – 5:51 am
The funny thing about people who others call "talented" is that they're viewed as "obsessed" until they're successful. Then, suddenly, they're called "luckily disciplined." Even if there were such a thing as talent, it remains inert unless activated by persistence and determination; it appears indistinguishable from an obsession against an improbable likelihood of success; and once having succeeded, it becomes dismissed as an inborn "talent" coupled with luck and fortune. Before achieving your goal, you're going to be viewed as obsessed and discouraged from continuing, including your own doubts. After succeeding you're going to be dismissed as having had the fortune of latent talents and lucky opportunities. It doesn't matter. Don't do this for acknowledgement. Do it because regardless of how hard it is, it sets your soul on fire. We are Legion,Scott Sonnon Chief Operations Officer www.RMAXInternational.com a2a_linkname="The funny thing about talented people is others think they're obsessed";a2a_linkurl="http://www.rmaxinternational.com/flowcoach/?p=2178";

Actually, Yes, You Can! Now, say it with me!

July 28, 2014 – 1:33 am
  My strength didn't come from lifting weights but from lifting myself up after I was repeatedly beaten down; and then, lifting the weight off of others, so they could find the muscle to stand up, too.  My flexibility didn't come from yoga but from melting resistance to the possibility that I was far greater than any labels of limited potential; and then, helping others bend their minds to their unlimited potential, as well. My toughness didn't come from fighting but from recovering from the blows of my perpetual failures, until I discovered that no matter the hardship, I grew, learned or benefited from facing it; and then, igniting others souls with this smirking stamina made me tougher still. My peace of mind didn't come to me from anywhere or anything in the world, but from hearing a defeating roar of "no's" and "can'ts" outside, digging deeply within myself and discovering the miracle that, ...

Workout Harder on Vacation? WHY?!

July 27, 2014 – 11:22 am
  Asked, "Why do you workout so hard on your vacation," I replied: When I have the luxury of days full of only recovery, more positive stress, results with rapid growth and no over-training effect. But this also requires an increase in (oxidized) water, and my 6 best friends: breakfast, brunch, lunch, late lunch, dinner and supper. You need recovery to grow. So vacation can be an ideal time for great advances in your fitness. (Some people like myself cannot relax without activity, and neurologically become physiologically unwell from forced confinement.) At some times in our lives, we have high levels of negative stress (distress) so when we vacation, we feel like we must only rest (remain inert). However, only positive stress (eustress) can fight distress. This requires recovery methods, so I switch out my heavy and even sometimes my moderate intensity sessions for a recovery workout. The result? Deep relaxation through intensity... And ...

The Cause of our Discontent is our Reaction

July 27, 2014 – 3:56 am
  Should everyone learn self-defense? The real question is: what IS self-defense? Awareness (environmental/situational and social/predatoral) is the single most important attribute of self-protection. Without it, a martial arts master is as useless as an unloaded firearm locked in a safe by a lost key. Awareness is determined by our physical state. So, if you feel the need to learn to defend yourself, start with the quality of your sleep, hydration, nutrition, and meal timing; recover from your injuries and heal ongoing pain; rebuild your fitness; and develop stress management skills. Then, you can begin to practice physical skills. Self-protection includes defending yourself against hypervigilance to imagined threats. Defend your longevity and quality of life by not allowing yourself to accept unreal danger. I have experienced threats diminish, I am becoming invisible to them, or almost all of them were not real to begin with and were enabled by the functional paranoia of ...

My free public appearance in Michigan AUG11

July 26, 2014 – 3:10 am
  "This will be a first-ever opportunity to hear Scott Sonnon speak in Michigan. The event is designed to foster an open dialogue about dyslexia and learning disabilities, based on Scott's own experiences. His global journey of discovery, as told in his new book, A Mountain Stands: Confessions of a Suppressed Genius, included alternative learning styles, movement, martial arts championships and much more. It should be an entertaining and rewarding evening for anyone with an interest in parenting, education, fitness, yoga or martial arts." DATE: 8/11/2014 (Mon 7:00PM - 8:30PM) LOCATION: The Commons, 7526 W. Grand River Avenue, Brighton, MI                       www.242commons.com ADMISSION: Free  Register by August 3rd and be entered into a drawing to meet Scott before the event and have your picture taken with him at the book signing for his new autobiography. Winner will also receive a free ebook copy of Scott's title, Living ...

Die young at heart, as late as possible

July 26, 2014 – 3:06 am
  "You sure write a lot about hardships. Why not write to positive things and get over negative?" - posted to my timeline last night. Health and fitness is never a constant. You don't get healthier and fitter and continue that way until you die. We are going to get sick again, hurt again, and suffer pain again. During those vulnerable moments, negative attitudes skulk back in. Being positive isn't a denial of the negative. I look around me right now and feel so grateful to have this temporary moment of being in incredible shape, pain-free, without injury or illness, because I know, this too shall pass. By being realistic, you don't leave your mind and heart defenseless to the shock of life's inevitable hardships. Why write for those who are pain, injury and illness free? It isn't difficult to have a positive attitude then. But we do need to support and strategies when ...

My “Dozen Do-Nots” for evolving my career and improving my character

July 25, 2014 – 3:02 am
   My "Dozen Do Nots" for continually evolving my career and improving my character: 1. If it feels wrong, don't do it. Don't act until you stop feeling entitled, self-righteous and blaming others for your situation. Own your power. Don't surrender it to others' definitions of what they believe you ought to do with your life. 2. Say exactly what you feel. Don't hide behind personas and images. Be yourself, even if it's different than yesterday (especially so). If people don't like what you feel, they can find others to listen to. Don't squelch your voice because others want you to pretend to be something different than you are. 3. Don't be a people-pleaser. Don't try to be everything to everyone. Be unapologetically yourself and the right people appear in your life. Those that must leave (for awhile or forever) can do so without remorse, and even with gratitude for the time you had ...

Be somebody who makes everybody feel like somebody

July 24, 2014 – 3:08 am
"Dad, did you know that when kids see you, they're scared. Probably because of your muscles, shaved head and tattoos. But when they get to know you, you're the grown-up they want to play with?" - My son says yesterday at the beach while looking around. "Kids are more forgiving than adults; because they just want to have fun and don't really care what a person looks like. Thank God for me," I laughed. He glances down at me, and tear-jerkingly says, "I want to be someone like you, Dad. You make everybody feel like somebody." I looked up from my chair at his lucid consideration of his future and how he wants to treat others. (Seeds his Mother has planted over the years had erupted through the cracks for a brief moment.) Seizing the teachable moment, I grabbed his shoulders and said, "You're already someone better than me. Just keep being you. ...