Archive for January, 2014

Be Your Own Rock

Monday, January 13th, 2014

This story has circulated before, but I wanted to share it with you, as it is one of the most poignant stories ever told in Hollywood. His name is Sylvestar Stallone: one of the most famous American movie superstars. Back in the day, Stallone was a struggling actor in every definition. ...

45 Lessons in 45 Years

Monday, January 13th, 2014

After the 1999 World Championships in Lithuania, I mapped out how I had hoped to grow as a person in the subsequent decade. Journaling every day showed me that we can improve our situation if we make ourselves aware by turning on the lights in the dark places where our ...

Can only fight darkness with light

Saturday, January 11th, 2014

When my page inflated in one month from reaching 74,000 to 59 million readers, a lot of tremendously positive remarks came, but also some corrosive ones, even threats against myself and my family. We must understand without excusing the bent myopia and broken emotions of aggressors if we are to ...

What do you want to be when you grow up? Anything.

Thursday, January 9th, 2014

A guidance counselor had asked me what I had wanted to be when I would grow up. “A martial artist,” I had quickly blurted. She the had chuckled,“That’s something you think would be fun; but not an actual job where people will pay you. With your learning difficulties, consider working ...

Don’t Use the Force

Wednesday, January 8th, 2014

The Dalai Lama shared, “This is my simple religion. There is no need for complicated philosophies. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple. My philosophy is compassion.” Once at Capital Games in Washington, DC, a fighter was attempting to place an ankle lock on me, and didn’t realize that ...

Necessary, True and Kind - 10 Communication Guidelines from my Wife

Wednesday, January 8th, 2014

I told the truth to my wife, fully expecting her to leave me. In past relationships, I had learned to not share all of the painful experiences of my childhood as those dark trials frequently frightened my prior relationships into abandoning our connection. Friends or girlfriends, I had kept a shamefully ...

Not Enlightened, but a little more aware

Wednesday, January 8th, 2014

Yesterday a poster remarked, "If there was any doubt that you're enlightened, with this article you've removed it." I can't reply to every comment, but I had to address this one, by writing, "I have met truly enlightened individuals, and I am not one of them. Fortunately for my wife, ...

My Little MAN-ifesto to my Son

Wednesday, January 8th, 2014

Honestly, every day feels like it could be my last. I look at my wife and my children, and I feel as if it could all end at any moment. In reality, this may indeed be very true. But psychologically, I know this feeling of imminent finality originates from having ...

Two Little Teachers

Wednesday, January 8th, 2014

My daughter had slipped out of my hand, running down the sidewalk toward a lumbering hulk of a man in a tattered trench-coat and grimy, woolen beanie. Body in motion, I sprinted toward her, but she had already approached the man from behind faster than I could catch her. Bending over, ...

Homeless not Heartless

Saturday, January 4th, 2014

I had published a story about "suspended coffee" charity. After thousands of comments, shares and likes, and over a million reads, one poster remarked, "People are stupid, liars and greedy... All filthy stinkin tramps, piss those smelling f--kers get a f--king job!!! Who wants coffee where degenerates drink?" The only filth ...