#1 Flow Coach Success Virtue

January 27, 2008 – 5:01 pm

So, what is the Number 1 Flow Coach Success Virtue? If you’ve been following along, and putting yourself through the exercises I’ve provided for your accelerated improvement, then you’re already guessing. If not, then you’re in for a surprise.

I’ve had the honor of surrounding myself by men and women much greater than myself, subject matter experts far outside of my comfort zone. And there was one universal virtue they each shared which they unanimously stated was pivotal to their success, and its absence the issue always lacking in those who suffer seemingly endless failure.

Rather than tell you, I want to help you realize this virtue so that you own it rather than borrow it. Doctor Jonathon Ellsworth Winter, retired philosophy professor from Vienna University, one of the most influence teachers I’ve ever had, taught me this technique.

Your Assignment if you choose to accept it:

  • Consider a specific challenge you’re facing right now. Write out all of the obstacles you’re facing and all of the problems you’re having with it.
  • Next, write down what you would like to accomplish in very clear terms that these obstacles and problems appear to be preventing.
  • Now write out all of the resources that you have to advantage: the skills, techniques, allies, teachers and research methods, all of your resources.
  • Choose an achievement date. Sometimes it’s determined for you, luckily. Other times, you must select it and commit to it!
  • Divide the task you must accomplish by the number of weeks you have to complete the task. If it doesn’t appear quantifiable, then make up chunks or batches and use them.
  • Divide each of those weekly tasks into daily requirements.
  • Complete each of those day to day small things and you’re guaranteed the total achievement.

 Most people neglect completing this exercise because they feel that they can do it all “in their head”. However, if you want maximal results in any endeavor, physical, vocational or financial, this exercise will nearly guarantee your success.

Think of it this way: what are the 4 things you need to get somewhere?

  1. Destination (or goals and objectives): you need to know where you’re going.
  2. Inventory (or perspective): you need to honestly and completely understand your point of origin, at any point in time.
  3. Tools (or skills, resources): you need a vehicle and fuel to get there.
  4. Map (or barometer of success): you need a point of reference in order to evaluate your progress.

On any trip you need to know your destination, your means of travel, a point of reference and most importantly, you need to know where you are right now. No map will ever help you if you don’t know where you’re starting from.

It was this one apparently innocuous insight which allowed me the ability to achieve what teachers and doctors said was impossible. By taking very lucid stock of my numerous visual, mental and physical impairments, I knew where I was. Granted, it looked like the bottom.

But it’s usually only at the bottom of the well that we finally look around and realize our predicament. Doesn’t hitting bottom feel like hell? Well, let me share with you a technique one of my teachers in Russia taught me. This one technique has saved my life, won me international championships, allowed me to make and maintain my fortune, and most importantly given me the ability to be a good father and husband.

One of the most frightening men I’ve ever met was known as the “legend” of the Russian special operation units during the Soviet-Afghani war for surviving 180 combat missions without ever losing a man,. When Alexander Kistin was retired because he was too valuable to be lost in the field, he was assigned as the senior tactical instructor for the “Alpha” – the most elite counter-terrorist unit in Eastern Europe.

Alexander was an incredible hand to hand fighter as you can imagine. When we fought, it was like someone beating you with a bag of hammers: everywhere and painful. He would surge over me with a maelstrom of strikes, and as soon as I would begin to fold, he would stop and say, “Tam! Tam!” Again, he’d envelope me and yell, “Tam, Ckot.” Over and over until it was obvious that I understood when he was calling my attention by saying, “there!”

What he was pointing out was a particular point when I would hold my breath, collapse upon my self, becoming unaware. As soon as that happened, he could have hit me with a wet newspaper because I was immobilized by my lack of awareness.

Over my years in Russia I was taught both the science and the practical techniques to identify that doorway into purgatory and how to avoid stepping through: through breathing, through movements and through particular postures.

Whenever we don’t understand where we are, neither the best map nor the fastest vehicle will get us to our destination. Alexander Kistin taught me that whenever things appear their worst that I should smile and take note. Why? Because I finally know where I am. When you hit the bottom, think to yourself, “I finally have hit bottom and know that I have the Earth to press off of, to jump from, and to support me from falling any farther.”

My teammates know this about me. When facing a superior opponent, I seem to thrive. The more I get hit, the more certain I become that things will improve, that I will survive and that I will become victorious. Because I know since things can’t get any worse, they can only get better: one of the true pearls of Russian culture.

The next time that you feel overwhelmed by a potentially relationship ending argument with your spouse, flooded by the absence of resources and yet ubiquity of debt, sunken by what seems like unsurpassable inches to lose and weakness to improve, whatever the details – it’s all the same, STOP. Take note. If that feels like the bottom, exhale. Smile. It’s only going up from here.

If you’re facing great challenge, then take it as a complement, because we’re never, not ever, given one challenge that we’re not perfectly equipped to tackle. It’s only when we ball up and go fetal in submission that prevents us from our dreams.

Take inventory. You are holding within you everything you need, always and already. It’s hard. I know. Literally, coming from the trailer park and off the short-bus, I never thought I’d be able to achieve international acclaim, especially with all of my “limitations.” But honestly assessing your inventory gives you the opportunity to realize every defect is a resource, each liability is an advantage in the opposite direction.

National best selling author and screen writer, Steven Barnes and I have received thousands of emails in response to all of the personal empowerment our students have experienced as a result of Threshold Training. And as a result, we’re yielding to the demand! We will be arranging a massive workshop to give our students access to the combined snowball of our work together. Keep your eyes peeled for announcements on the Threshold Experience in Los Angeles area circa October-November 2008!!!

Flow Thyself™,

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